I am a parent writing because of Tom Bennett’s views on behaviour, particularly in response to an early years teacher’s query in “The behaviour question” (Professional, 7 February).

I’m not a fan of the punitive method. By the time my daughter was 6, I realised punishment wasn’t going to get her (or me) anywhere - she was learning zilch and feeling rubbish. Schools should rethink the naughty step approach and exclusion policies, and instead adopt some of the child-centred methods outlined by Jane Nelsen in her book Positive Discipline.

When I see the red mist coming, I ask myself Nelsen’s question: “Where did we ever get the crazy idea that in order to make children do better, first we have to make them feel worse?”

Tom Marter, Petworth, West Sussex.