Dealing with anger;Bullying;Features amp; Arts
DEALING WITH ANGER
Why do people get angry?
* Because they don't get what they want. * Because they are frustrated. * Because they cannot do their school work. * Because they are hurt and afraid to show it. * Because they feel hard done by. * Because they feel frightened or inadequate. * Because they are being abused and can't tell. * Because they are used to getting their own way. When is anger OK?
* If something is unfair. * If someone is being harmed. * If dictators are killing people. * If someone is being bullied. * If someone is being called racist names. * If people have been abused. When is anger not OK?
* If it is used to hurt someone. * If it is used unfairly. * If it is used to gain power over someone. * If it makes you sick. * If it is turned against yourself. How can anger be expressed?
* State the reasons for your anger calmly and be specific: "I'm angry because you didn't meet me at the cinema like you promised".
* State what you would like to happen to remedy the situation: "You owe me an apology" or "I expect you to replace the toy you broke".
* Listen to what the other person says without interrupting.
* Stick to the current problem. Don't bring up all the sins of the past, such as "You're always doing that".
* Try not to use blame. It's better to say "It makes me angry when you take my video game without asking", not "You're a terrible person for taking my game and I hate you".
This exercise is taken from theKidscape training manual 'How to Stop Bullying'. See details on page 7