The delicate dilemma of dealing with the divorced
Mr Fielding also states that should the "other parent" wish to see the child at school, heshe should be asked by the school to first contact the "parent with care" presumably to seek approval.
Having had an affair, my ex-wife left our home with my two children. She enrolled them in two schools. I had to fight to get equal access to information as the "other parent" because the infant school staff consulted my ex-wife about everything.
Mr Fielding's policy of first consulting the "parent with care" would have compounded my situation. Fortunately, I gained the confidence of the headteacher but it was hard work and even then when my son needed hospital treatment following an accident in school, the school neglected to inform me presumably because I was only the "other parent".
My personal experience has made me very sensitive but also objective when dealing with divorce situations. I am sure Mr Fielding means well but he needs to think again. As a deputy headteacher, I only hope I am now, as he puts it, "better prepared".
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