QA

28th March 2008 at 00:00
How many teachers stay in touch with pupils once they leave school? When I left, a few of us frequently met up with some of our A-level teachers when we came home from university or college to catch up. Can you be friends with former pupils?

Sarah, West Sussex

A: It is important you maintain a degree of distance. You do not want any allegations made against you. You are there as a role model and, of course, you will care about your pupils, but you could quite easily put yourself in a vulnerable situation here.

John, Middlesex

A: I keep in touch with some former pupils - at their instigation. We meet for coffee occasionally, text occasionally, and I see some out clubbing sometimes. Some email me and I reply, but I always use the school address and keep a log, just in case. Pupils starting university are special young people and it was fab seeing former pupils at a couple of 18th birthday parties.

Boo, Walkley

A: Why not? After all, you may require their expertise in the future, when they're a doctor, mechanic, fellow teacher or, worse, your new head of department. It might not be wise to be out drinking with them the week after their A-levels, though

Fred, Carmarthen

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