When a child gives a poor answer to a question, we ask it a different way – we reframe it, add context, use a different tone of voice.
So when it comes to those silent questions that run through our mind each day, why don’t we do the same for ourselves?
When you’re facing an overwhelming task list…
Instead of thinking, “How can I possibly get all of this done?”, focus on what’s urgent. This will help you apply a strategy of “Do the Worst First” and avoid procrastination-induced panic.
Sometimes, you just can’t face a task. Ask, “Could I spread this out into manageable chunks?”
If you don’t know when to stop…
For over-achievers, this surge of positive momentum has us jumping straight into the next task. Don’t use productivity to negotiate yourself out of the limited free time you may have. Instead ask, “Is getting this task done really so important that it should come above my health, my relationship, my peace of mind?”
When you stop, but can’t switch off…
You’ve convinced yourself to enjoy some well-earned downtime, and you manage it … for a few minutes. Until the anxiety begins. Step back and ask yourself, “What’s the absolute worst that could happen? How would I handle it?”
Jo Steer is a teacher and experienced leader of SEND interventions and wellbeing strategies