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The Behaviour Question

My pupils are usually lovely and well behaved, but this week they seem to have gone slightly loopy. There have been lots of cases of them telling tales, and small incidences of them hitting each other and being really noisy. I'm not sure what the problem is, but I want to fix it - and quickly. Any tips on how to stop all the hitting and tale-telling?

What you said


Try to track the causes: has one child had a "problem" that has caused others to react? Has there been a general disruption to their routine? It never hurts to check this out.

Check the lesson plans and resources with care. If they are not engaged with the units you're running, then it's going to be demonstrated elsewhere. I am not suggesting it's your fault, but tick this off as someone will ask you about it if you have to go the senior leadership team for backup.

Bribery and corruption also works, so think about stickers for those who behave. It's a golden oldie.

The expert view

Telling tales is usually stopped by doing the following. Every time someone tells a tale, tall or otherwise, nod and say: "Hmm. I need you to stay behind and write out in detail exactly what happened."

Then, if they are old enough, do not let them take less than 10 minutes to do so (tell them that you "need more detail"). If they are not at the writing stage, simply take the time to interview them at length, and make them wait a bit after lesson and during lunch until you do.

It sounds harsh, but this discourages a culture where children use you as a weapon against their peers.

After a while, you should have a feel for who usually instigates and who usually reciprocates with slaps and punches. You can weight the time taken for the follow-up to match the presumed guilt or innocence. This usually kills off all but the most persistent of tell-tales. And, of course, if any of the allegations are more serious than a nuisance, make sure you give them some of your real time immediately, in case you deter genuine problems from being aired.

But if any of the children tell a tale, and you can easily show that it is an invention, you need to show them some consequences: call home, make them miss playtime, and so on. This will usually train them to realise that it is not a small thing to accuse someone else and should be reserved for real situations.

As for the slapping, reboot your behaviour expectations with a good stern talk to the whole class. Make it clear what will happen if anyone slaps someone else in your room. If you catch anyone doing it after that, they need a consequencesanction that is immediate - so the same day - and stiff. Plus, make it very public that this is what you are doing.

Children will do what you let them get away with in most cases, so set a standard that this shall not pass.

Tom Bennett is author of The Behaviour Guru and Not Quite a Teacher.

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