A practical guide to supporting children who experience high levels of anxiety or threat in response to everyday demands. It explores demand pressure, collaborative language, autonomy and flexible approaches. It includes a demand audit, hierarchy of demands and personalised autonomy-support plan. What it helps address: Helps families caught in repeated cycles of refusal, anxiety, negotiation and escalation. The strategies support adults in lowering unnecessary pressure, increasing a child’s sense of safety and choice, and approaching essential demands collaboratively. This is a support resource, not a diagnostic assessment.

A comprehensive 90-page collection containing all nine Defining Minds parent-support resources. The bundle covers behaviour and regulation, de-escalation language, emotional regulation, ADHD at home, autism and transitions, PDA-profile needs, oppositional behaviour, restorative reflection and home-school communication. What it helps address: Provides families and SEND professionals with one coordinated set of tools for understanding behaviour, reducing escalation, supporting emotional regulation, improving routines and transitions, maintaining boundaries and strengthening home-school collaboration. Resources can be selected according to the child’s needs rather than using a one-size-fits-all approach.

A structured communication pack for families and education professionals. It includes home-to-school and school-to-home check-ins, a weekly pattern summary, meeting-preparation sheets and a communication agreement with prompts for appropriate information sharing. What it helps address: Helps prevent important SEND and wellbeing information from becoming lost, inconsistent or focused only on incidents. The pack supports clearer communication, identifies patterns across different environments and helps home and school coordinate effective strategies.

A set of flexible reflection and restorative-practice worksheets for use after an incident. It includes readiness checks, a simple picture-based reflection, the child’s perspective, impact and repair activities, adult reflection and a menu of meaningful repair options. What it helps address: Supports adults who want to help children learn from difficult situations without relying on shame or punishment. The pack encourages reflection at the appropriate time, helps identify unmet needs and supports practical steps towards repairing relationships.

An ODD-informed parent resource exploring conflict cycles, clear directions, predictable boundaries, positive attention and calm follow-through. It includes a conflict-detective worksheet, boundary-planning tool and practical prompts for responding without escalating confrontation. What it helps address: Designed for families experiencing frequent arguments, refusal, defiance or power struggles. It helps adults recognise recurring interaction patterns, communicate expectations more clearly and maintain safe, consistent boundaries while protecting the relationship. It does not diagnose ODD.

A practical transition pack for supporting autistic children and children with related SEND needs. It includes a Now–Next–Then–Finished planner, individual transition plan, unexpected-change card, sensory checklist and preparation template for visits and unfamiliar situations. What it helps address: Designed for children who experience anxiety, distress or resistance when activities, people, places or expectations change. The resources increase predictability, prepare children for what will happen and help adults identify sensory or communication adjustments.

A parent-friendly ADHD toolkit containing practical strategies for task initiation, working memory, routines, transitions, screen use, movement, motivation and giving manageable instructions. It includes a routine-redesign worksheet and an ADHD-friendly home support plan. What it helps address: Created for families experiencing repeated reminders, unfinished tasks, difficult transitions, forgetfulness, impulsivity or conflict around everyday routines. The toolkit helps adults reduce demands on executive functioning and make home routines easier to begin and complete.

A practical planning pack containing a regulation ladder, body-clues map, regulation menu, co-regulation plan and adult self-regulation prompts. The worksheets can be completed collaboratively to identify early signs of distress and the support that works best. What it helps address: Supports children who find it difficult to recognise, communicate or manage their emotions. It helps adults notice changes earlier, respond before distress becomes overwhelming and develop a consistent regulation plan for home or school.

A ready-to-use collection of 50 calm, low-pressure phrases for rising anxiety, refusal, anger, transitions, shutdowns and emotionally charged situations. It also includes language to avoid, adult self-regulation prompts and space to create a personalised phrase bank. What it helps address: Designed for adults who struggle to find the right words when a child is distressed or escalating. The scripts help reduce verbal pressure, avoid power struggles, maintain appropriate boundaries and support reconnection after difficult moments.

A practical toolkit designed to help adults understand behaviour as communication and respond calmly and consistently. It includes ABC observation sheets, trigger and protective-factor mapping, preventative strategies, escalation guidance, a one-change experiment and an individual child support plan. What it helps address: Ideal for families experiencing meltdowns, emotional dysregulation, refusal, conflict or other behaviours that can feel difficult to understand. The resource helps adults identify patterns, reduce avoidable triggers and develop a more personalised response to a child’s needs.