Conflict Resolution & I-Messages SEL Story + Activities | The Bench in the Middl
About this resource
The Bench in the Middle is a realistic SEL story about a simple wooden bench in the middle of the playground that accidentally becomes the “conflict bench.” When a soccer game argument hurts two friends, a classmate named Mira helps them slow down, share their feelings with I-messages, and create new Bench Rules for everyone.
This story-based resource helps students see themselves in everyday conflicts and gives them concrete tools to solve problems calmly: I-messages, listening to both sides, taking a pause, and looking for win-win solutions.
It’s perfect for Grades 3–5 and can be used during SEL lessons, morning meetings, small-group counseling, or reading/ELA centers.
What’s included
All pages are in English and ready to print:
Storybook – The Bench in the Middle
Comprehension & Reading Activities
Story Map
SEL Reflection Sheet – The Bench in the Middle
My Conflict Resolution Toolkit – Graphic Organizer
Writing Prompt – A Conflict I Can Solve Calmly
Role-Play Cards – The Bench in the Middl
Bonus Activity – Bench Rules: Sort & Fix
Bonus Activity – Feelings Thermometer: When to Pause?
Coloring Pages
Teacher Guide
Skills and SEL focus
Students will practice:
identifying conflict situations and “clues” (body language, tone, silence),
building empathy and perspective-taking,
using I-messages instead of blame,
listening to both sides and looking for win-win solutions,
writing about real or imagined conflicts using structure and details,
reflecting on their own emotional “thermometer” and when they need a pause.
This resource is a great fit for:
SEL lessons / advisory / morning meeting
School counseling sessions
Back-to-school expectations & playground rules
Friendship units
Conflict resolution / problem-solving themes
Prep & printing
Print in black and white – ink-friendly.
You can:
staple the story pages as a mini-book;
use individual worksheets as stations;
project pages for whole-class modeling;
place coloring pages in your calm-down or SEL center.
Recommended grade levels
Best for: Grades 3–5
Also adaptable for:
high 2nd grade (with support)
6th grade in need of concrete SEL tools and simpler reading.




