What I Can & Can’t Control | Pastoral & Inclusion Reflection Sheet (FREE)
This Zones of Control–inspired reflection sheet helps students identify what is within their control and what is outside of their control, supporting emotional regulation, behaviour reflection and positive decision-making.
The simple visual layout makes this resource easy to use in 1:1 pastoral conversations, small-group interventions or calm-down spaces, without requiring specialist training or preparation.
Students are encouraged to focus on their choices, reactions and next steps, rather than becoming overwhelmed by situations they cannot change. This can help reduce frustration, anxiety and reactive behaviour while promoting a sense of personal responsibility and control.
This resource is particularly effective when used as a guided conversation tool, rather than a written task to be completed in silence.
When Could This Be Used?
After a behaviour incident
During a restorative or reflective conversation
In pastoral check-ins or mentoring sessions
As part of a self-regulation or emotional literacy intervention
In inclusion rooms, withdrawal spaces or alternative provision
With students who feel overwhelmed, stuck or frustrated
Suitable for KS2–KS4, depending on need and context.
Who Is This Resource For?
Designed for use by:
Teaching Assistants
Pastoral support staff
Behaviour mentors
Heads of Year / House teams
Inclusion staff
Teachers
No specialist SEN knowledge required.
What’s Included?
1 × A4 printable reflection sheet
Clear, student-friendly layout
Neutral design suitable for repeated use
