Restorative Behaviour Reflection Toolkit

A differentiated restorative behaviour toolkit helping EYFS–KS2 pupils regulate emotions, reflect on choices, repair harm and return to learning.

This practical 11-page behaviour resource supports calm, meaningful restorative conversations following classroom, playground or peer-conflict incidents. It moves beyond punitive “sorry sheets” by helping children understand what happened, recognise the impact of their behaviour and choose an appropriate way to put things right.

The toolkit follows a simple three-step approach:

• Regulate first
• Reflect second
• Repair and return third

The resource includes:

• Staff implementation guide
• Visual reflection sheet for EYFS, SEND, EAL and emerging writers
• Supported KS1 behaviour reflection with sentence stems
• Independent KS2 restorative reflection
• Meaningful apology letter builder
• Menu of restorative repair choices
• Return-to-learning and fresh-start plan
• Five-minute quick reflection sheet
• Adult restorative follow-up record

The differentiated formats allow pupils to point, circle, draw, speak or write depending on their age, communication needs and level of regulation. The resource is therefore suitable for mainstream classrooms, SEND provision, nurture groups, pastoral support, behaviour interventions and inclusion settings.

It can be used following:

• Classroom disruption
• Playground incidents
• Unkind or unsafe choices
• Peer conflict
• Damage to property
• Repeated low-level behaviour
• Dysregulation or emotional outbursts
• Time with a class teacher, teaching assistant, behaviour lead, pastoral lead or SENCO

The toolkit encourages accountability without shame. An apology is presented as one possible repair rather than an automatic or forced consequence. Other repair choices include helping, fixing, restoring a shared space, respecting boundaries, practising the expected behaviour and rebuilding trust.

Provided as both a print-ready PDF and an editable Microsoft Word document, allowing schools to adapt the wording to match their behaviour policy.

Suitable for EYFS, KS1, KS2, primary teachers, teaching assistants, SEND staff, pastoral teams, behaviour leads and senior leaders.